Once upon a time, in a land far, far away, I was an early patron of internet dating sites. Yep, I had profiles on the likes of Lavalife and POF for some years. These early social media sites (yes I call them social media sites, after all, what’s more social than meeting people and dating?) were my way to pre-screen. And it worked pretty well I’d say. I invested a lot of time in talking to people on the site to find those genuinely interested in meeting someone vs. those looking for a quick bootie call or the serial daters. My use of dating sites fell by the wayside probably somewhere in the realm of 5 or 6 years ago. But I kept my profiles, you know, “just in case”. I didn’t have any particular beef with any of them. I had met some genuinely good people (it’s all about the pre-screen).
One day, I got around to cleaning out my inbox. I did one purge a couple of months back, unsubscribing from as many e-newsletters and regular mailouts that I could stand to do in one sitting. But when 300 unread emails still piled up over the course of a few weeks, it was clear more of them had to be on the chopping block. As I scrolled through the unread messages, a POF update came across my line of vision. “A-ha! I haven’t used that in years!” What the hell, I’ll go all in and delete my account altogether. Well, when I clicked on the link from the email to change my profile preferences, guess what I saw?
There’s nothing wrong with the top one. People pay attention to real people with real photos more so than those with no picture or fake photos, that one’s a no-brainer. My eyes fell on the second notice. Well how about that! Somewhere in the last 5 years, I’ve found myself a husband, managed to get myself hooked on any number of drugs and taken to poisoning myself with a cancer stick. Man, I’ve been busy! Had I logged in to update my POF profile, I could’ve avoided so many problems. And found a nice man to keep me out of trouble. What kind of guy did I marry anyway that would support such habits?
Like I said, I had no beef with POF before deleting my account. But after seeing that? I gleefully, yes gleefully pressed the delete button.